It's been a hard days night…

When I asked Col to read this he said, ‘good post, a little negative but the situation pretty much dictates that’.  To say it’s been a tough week would be an understatement, but I’ve managed to come through the other side and am hoping to shake the negativity off soon!

This weekend was a quiet one.  Which, given the last few weekends was a welcome break for the two of us!

I bought about 12 hanks of sock yarn a while back and haven’t wound them into balls yet, not having a ball winder, I roped Col into helping me out! We did that this weekend while catching up on a criminal amount of TV and got some of them done. Col started on Thursday night, got his into a right ole tangle and took 2 days to sort it out.  Saturday, I did 2 hanks myself and when Col finished his first one he did another one and got it into a God awful tangled mess too – I have no idea what he was doing mind you, but it was quite funny. He has the patience of a SAINT cause I’d have just gone scissor happy long before he got to the end of the mess – and he did, both time.

Col’s mum called on Saturday morning and we had a good ole chat, it’s been forever since I spoke to her cause lately Col has been working from home so instead of me calling her (cause we kept missing her calls out galavanting with Rowan), I got him to call her cause when he’s in the office he either forgets or gets too busy so when he’s at home I can <s>nag</s> remind him to do it.  It was nice to chat to her, we talked for just under an hour and I brought her up to date on all the happenings here in sunny Texas.

Most of the weekend like I said, was spent catching up on TV, but we did go out to the cinema yesterday to take in one of our double features.

Col turned to me yesterday while we were in the car en route to the cinema and said, ‘you’re having a nice hair day today’, then he paused and followed up with ‘well, you’ve had nice hair days every day since you changed what you do with it, but today it’s particularly nice’ lol! He’s a sweet guy 🙂

Feeco and I

Our chosen movies this week were, Salt and The Other Guys.  They were both good, ‘Salt’ made me miss my friend Laura.  When I lived in Belfast going to Uni, Laura and I used to go to the cinema all the time.  We used to sit and talk through movies (yes, we were THOSE people) and guess what was going to happen next – our predictions were usually spot on.

Salt was a typical ‘us’ movie, I tried to whisper predictions to Col during the film but that’s not his thing (I was right by the way!) and it just made me miss Feeco all the more.

She and I have known each other for a very long time, she’s my longest standing friend and knows me better than I realise.  Our friendship fell victim partly to the move out here and a partly breach of trust by another ‘friend’ at the time, either way it’s gone and behind us, which I’m glad of because, truth be told, I’ve missed her more than she probably knows.  I’ll have to tell you about her one of these days, although, if I do that, I risk her telling y’all about me – and, well, she knows way too much to open that door! LOL!

Actually – that’s quite a concept, asking my friends to write a blog post about me for my own blog, man, I’d need to be crazy or stupid to do that! LOL!

Nicky, Nikki, Jolene and I

It’s been quite the week for missing people, I’ve been doing a lot of knitting lately and that makes me miss my ‘brain’ group of ladies.

We used to get together in Whetherspoons on the Dublin Road, have our dinner and a pint for a fiver, intend on going to see a movie when we’d done with dinner, but more often than not ended up missing it cause we were chatting and laughing too much to keep track of time!

Again when I lived in Belfast we started a little knitting night and the girls came round sometimes to knit and chat, even when we moved to Larne they managed the occassional drop-by for a Stitch and Bitch!

They actually created a ‘proper’ Stitch and Bitch in Belfast City centre that’s been up and running for (I think) 3 years now and when I’m home I try and join them as much as I can cause it’s a wonderful group they have going.  I’ve learned a lot from these ladies – not just about knitting/crocheting, but about myself as well and I miss them terribly.

With hockey season coming up I miss other folk as well, but I’ve been working on a hockey post for a while now and it just makes me upset every time I try and work on it so it might be a while before I get it published! I do think however, that there’ll be a reunion of some kind this Christmas for Bex, the Doc, Kez and I – or at least that there needs to be!

Less than 12 weeks to go to the wedding, I still have so much to do and the worst bit is that most of what’s left to do, I’ve got to do on my own. It’s mainly the smaller, girlie things that Col isn’t really interested in or has a clue about (like gifts or toasting flutes), I don’t have my mother in the picture so it’s particularly hard, my heart goes out to people who have had to plan a wedding without their mother.  I mean, I’ve not had to plan a wedding with a mother so I don’t have much to compare it to, but I know planning without one brings an air of sadness sometimes, especially with things like dress shopping, but also when you least expect it.  It’s not easy and does cast a shaddow on something that’s supposed to be blissful.

So, I’m kind of going it alone on things at the minute I guess. That has it’s upsides, I mean, we get to have things the way we want with zero interference or aggro, but sometimes it’d be nice to have someone on hand to help out with the little things…or, y’know, at least show a little interest here and there, but apparently, for most people, our wedding doesn’t enter into their worlds in any way shape or form, which is fine for the most part, but some days I just get so disappointed by people.  If they haven’t stopped speaking to us cause they aren’t coming to the wedding (don’t ask me I don’t have any explanation other than possible feelings of guilt), the other ‘tactic’ is to just not mention the wedding at all, like if they don’t mention it, it’s not happening, so I’ve not really had much squee-festing or conversations about plans and things or the girle chats about colours and tablecloths – oh well, it’s not like it’s the most important day of my life or anything! I’ll get over it!

I’ll get there eventually though. I suppose I’m most afraid of missing something or forgetting something and now that more people than not are RSVP’ing positively, I think some nerves are starting to set in.  It’s really happening and there’s no going back now!

Speaking of RSVP’s, I know it’s a really common thing, but holy crap how easy do you have to make it for people? I spent a bloody fortune putting stamps on RSVP’s (especially for the UK people) all they have to do is tick a box and dump it in a post box and that’s even too hard for some people! Most of the UK people know by this stage if they’re coming or not, so really it’s not a difficult task! I just don’t get it! The ‘RSVP by’ date is just over 2 weeks from now and most people have not yet sent back their RSVP so chance are I’m going to have to herd them up – and frankly? I’ve done my job, I got the invitations together and I sent them out – complete with paid postage for people to return it to me and I’m still waiting.

Maybe I’m being unfair and speaking too soon, maybe next week I’ll have an influx of all of the outstanding RSVP’s from across the world, we’ll have to wait and see, but I can’t say I’m holding my breath!

I dunno, I feel restless today, but at the same time, I don’t want to do anything. I could go out to Target and do some shopping but I don’t really want to, I could finish my sock but I don’t really want to, I could write some penpal letters but I don’t really want to, I could go upstairs and start planning my wedding Thank You cards but I don’t really want to…anyone ever have days like that? Where they don’t really want to do anything?

Today is one of those days for me – and I have a headache to go with it! 🙁

Until next time…

6 thoughts on “It's been a hard days night…”

  1. I am not the particularly girlie type but I will try to help more with girlie squeal worthy things (although I can safely roll my eyes here in Nebraska while we do it right?) . If it helps any, no one from my party lived within 12 hours but I did have some people from school who occasionally helped with girl-esque stuff. I emailed everything back and forth with my girls though and they were awesome. My friend Sarah is super crafty and did the bouquets and such and she would probably be willing to discuss or help with details too. I am sorry some of your other friends are shitty 🙁

  2. LOL! you’re being particularly helpful with the practical on the day things, which I do appreciate 🙂

    I don’t necessarily think my friends are shitty, I just think they have more important things to do in their life than worry about my wedding, who know’s maybe we’re all like it!

  3. Awww, miss you too.

    But personally I think you’re getting on your RSVP horse too early lol! If you haven’t received them by the date then by all means shout all round you! lol

    1. I hope so, but for the most part, anyone at home coming should really know by now if they’re coming for sure or not and I know a lot of people who are 100% not coming and have been 100% not coming from before I sent out the invitations so I just think it’s a little rude…those who genuinely don’t know yet that’s fine but those aren’t who i’m moaning about! We’ll see in a fortnight 🙂

  4. Online RSVPing is the way to go, haha. We didn’t put stamps on ours – in fact, only the larger invites had any kind of “reply card” to send back in them at all – I don’t think anybody would have blamed you for leaving them off with the international postage as a consideration! The etiquette is such a minefield, isn’t it? That’s why I just ignored it and did my own thing most of the time, haha.

    Happy to distance squeal whenever you want to pet. Colours? Themes? Now I am weddingless and bereft, so please share! And I know what it’s like to put the whole thing together with certain people only showing a minimum of interest, so I sympathise x

    1. Etiquette is a huge minefield – who’da thunk it? I think come early September I’ll do an evite/online RSVP to chase people down and make them reply! As for squealing – I’ll just take you up on that offer (and have done via FB messages) I haven’t shown everyone everything though, I’m keeping most of it to my chest! I might send you an email just cause you rawk 😉

      PS I’m taking your sympathy and snuggling with it, it’s so rare to get sympathy these days! LOL

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